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Fighting Bad “Gagging” Sex
The Bad Sex Story submitted:
Me and my boyfriend like to get kinky once and a while….. It keeps things interesting. We have recently experimented with gags like the ones used to prevent one from being able to talk …… not like gagging. We have even bought one at the local sex shop.
So the other night we were out at our local watering hole for some drinks. We started talking dirty to each other. He wanted to have sex in the washroom…. I politely declined… I am not that type of girl…. Well actually I am but my ex was
a bartender there and I didn’t exactly want to get busted banging my new bf there.
We get home and things get hot and heavy and loud really quick. He is on top and he gets that look in his eyes… I know what that means…… I tell him to gag me thinking he is going to use the nice comfortable ball gag we bought……. ummm no. He grabbed his sock and tried to put it in my mouth.
Yuuuucckkk, needless to say I stopped things where there were and yelled at him……. he said he was sorry and wasn’t thinking straight…… but really a sweaty sock?
FIGHTING BAD SEX:
Wow! It always amazes me when people surprise their partners with something new. You handled the situation well by halting the situation when you were uncomfortable. Sometimes we just keep going to please or apease our partners. It is important to remember that consent can be given and taken away at anytime. Including established relationships with your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. It is your sex life and you choose how, when and with whom you share that with.
In order to avoid something similar like this from happening again it would be worth discussing further with your boyfriend. Take a little time before you bring it up and do so in a way that does not make him wrong. Find out the process that he was going through in his mind to come to the decision to grab his sweaty sock. Did it turn him on? Did he think you would like it? Then you can acknowledge that he made a decision that worked for him that didn’t work for you. Then you have the opportunity to discuss and create what would work for the two of you.
Remember there is no right way, there is no wrong way. There is just your way.
….. and somewhere out there someone loves having a sweaty sock in their mouth….. just sayin.